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i lack these qualities how to improve

1. someone mentioned i dont know whom should i give importance and for whom should i not give importance , its like i should be giving more priority to my own people in terms pf commitment and all
2. emotionally i dont express people , i mean i dont convey that i have felt good or i have felt sorry for them at the point of time, but i will reveal about that later point in time, when others raise points
3. i dont emotionally understand girls attitude , its like i will be logically answering them instead of understanding their current situation in mind,sometimes i will be practical which is good, but seems like i need to be emotionally giving support to them and after a bit i should be practically supporting them

Thank you for sharing this. You have described three specific interpersonal skill gaps very clearly, which already shows maturity and self-awareness. I will respond in a practical, structured way so you can improve step-by-step, not theoretically.

1. Not knowing whom to prioritise or give importance to What this usually means

This feedback often means:

You treat everyone equally in commitment, time, and energy

But the people closest to you feel they are not getting priority

You may say "yes" to too many people, or avoid saying "no"

A simple framework to prioritise people

Think of your relationships as three circles:

Inner Circle — Highest priority

Family (supportive)

2–3 closest friends

Partner These people receive:

reliability

time

emotional availability

consistency

Middle Circle — Medium priority

colleagues

acquaintances

extended social group

Outer Circle — Low priority

strangers

casual connections

people who are only transactional

Practical actions

Say "no" more often to outer circle

Be highly consistent with inner circle

If there is a conflict:

Inner circle wins first

Work obligations next

Social / optional people last

Small behaviour changes

Reply sooner to important people

Show up when you commit

Remember key dates / events

Show appreciation

Warning sign to avoid

If everyone says:

"You are reliable for others, but unavailable for us"

Then you need to rebalance priority.

2. Not expressing emotions at the right time What this usually looks like

You feel appreciation or sympathy

But you don't express it immediately

Others assume you do not care

Later when you explain, it feels "too late"

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